Marleigh and Me: Healing Progress

My massage therapy table, ready for work.

My massage therapy table, ready for work.

My teen daughter Marleigh and I have been addressing some difficulties with focus, attention, sleep, and sadness  through massage therapy and energetic bodywork.  There was an immediate shift in her life experience when we began the work together.

1.  She’s falling asleep readily, and sleeping through the night uninterruptedly.  So she’s getting her rest.  That’s essential and foundational to good health, and it’s a drastic change from her sleep patterns in the past 8 weeks.

2.  She’s getting her reading homework done.  And she’s been reading a lot more in general, which has been an added benefit.  Reading, other than the short-attention-span skimming of the internet, had slipped out of her free time.  She’d begin books but hadn’t finished them.  Now she’s completing her homework, then choosing a favorite book to sink in to.  Right now she’s completely absorbed in a good read and is tearing through it.  This, to me, is an unexpected thrill.  So she’s settling in and getting her school work done (thoroughly), and she’s also settled enough to do lots of extra reading.

3.  She’s focusing better in class and practicing new techniques I taught her to help rein herself in when her mind starts darting around.  She’s actually doing this and tells me it’s helped her focus.

So we’re off to a  really good start.  Our lives are really busy.  Marleigh is a ninth grader taking advanced placement classes, participating in 2 sports this season, with a nice social life.  As a single, self-employed mom my days,  evenings, and  weekends are full with my work,  shuttling daughters to practices, and getting to games (which are more often than not at least 20 miles away), trying to keep us all fortified nutritionally, emotionally, and spiritually, and having some fun too.  It’s a good life,  and a very full life.  But the point I’m making is that we have to make this healing work a priority so that it will continue.  It’s one more thing to incorporate into our busy lives.  But now that we’ve seen the results, we know that it makes a difference.  A real positive impact.  So we’re going to continue.  We’re making it a priority.   I’ll be keeping you posted.

 

Mandy Meyer-Hill

NYS Licensed Massage Therapist

Stairway Healing Arts Center

1 Washington Street
Cambridge, NY  12816
518-265-7889
StairwayHealingArts@gmail.com

Marleigh and Me: A Healing Journey Begins

A simple chime.

A simple chime.

So my darlin’ daughter Marleigh was unhappy, even depressed.  Crying frequently.  Having great difficulty focusing and concentrating.  Her grades at school were suffering.   I was scared, feeling helpless.  I wanted to help and support her but didn’t know how.   Until I finally started looking at the situation as a massage therapist and energy worker.  How would I handle this if she were a client coming to me for these issues?  Big a-ha moment for mom.  More like a great big “DUH!”   A line from some 1970s sitcom or movie kept running through my head, “We have the technology to heal her” (was it the Bionic Woman?  Star Wars?  no matter)    I realized I actually did know how to help her and I developed a little treatment plan.  And that felt really, really good.

Phase I:  Shift the Energy

The first thing to do was shift the energy around her.  The heavy energies of sadness, anger, strife, and unhappiness can get stuck in us, and in our living and work spaces.  Sound waves can help to move these heavy, damp, stuck energies.  I decided to start helping Marleigh (all three of us, actually) by clearing the energy in our home.  I have a wonderful little brass chime with a clear, strong ring.  Its sound waves resonate long after it’s been rung.   It’s an awesome tool for clearing energies and I use it a lot in my work, as well as to signify the beginning and close of every Meditation Circle.  So I brought the chime home and rang it in every room, every door way, every window, under each bed, and in every nook and cranny of our home.   It was like opening a window on a breezy sunny day into a room that’s cold and damp.  I did this each day this past week.  My daughters roll their eyes when they hear the chime and say, “Mom’s going all Fig Leaf again”.  And that’s okay.  Because, honestly, there was a lightness, calmness, and genuine warmth between us this week that I hadn’t felt in several months.  I’ll continue to clear the space at least twice a week from now on.  But now the stage was set for the next phase of my treatment plan, which we began Thursday evening.

Marleigh and Me: A Healing Journey (Part I)

Marleigh at Popham Beach, Maine.  Labor Day 2012.  She chose this photo.

Marleigh at Popham Beach, Maine. Labor Day 2012. She chose this photo.

I’ve always considered myself the luckiest mom on the planet because I have the two most incredible daughters that I get to share my life with.  Seriously.  My girls are bright, vibrant, confident, healthy, interesting, fun, creative, and just awesome to be with every day.  Being a single parent can be challenging and lonely.  But we’re a tight trio with a healthy, rich connection that I also think is rooted in the fact that I’ve raised them alone.

But my older daughter, Marleigh, has been struggling lately.  Grades dropping, crying a lot, feeling down, having a lot of trouble focusing.  I have her permission and blessing to discuss this on my blog, by the way, because she and I have found a way through this.

Let me tell you a bit about Marleigh.  She’s always been a strong student and an athlete.  She’s known for her happy disposition, her goofiness, and for being a prize clown.   Her principal said, “Oh, Marleigh.  She always seems so happy.  So unusual for that age…”    She’ll be the first to intervene when she feels someone is being mistreated and she’s an excellent judge of character.  She’s kind and thoughtful, and her friends count on her for solid advice and insights.  I really admire her.

So the depression, the inability to focus, and the dropping grades were a severe turn from her normal way of life, and I was getting scared.  So was she.  So we visited our counsellor and her doctor to see if we were missing any serious health concerns.  In both cases she was awarded a clean bill of health.  She seemed to be right on target for a maturing 14 year old female.  But I wanted to support her, help her focus, re-adjust, settle back into her happy and confident self, and hopefully even get her grades back up to reflect the bright gal she is.  Then I realized that I could probably help her. I started digging through my little medicine bag of massage and energy therapy techniques and came up with a bunch of good ideas.  And then I developed a plan.

Over the next few days and weeks I’d like to share the healing techniques we’re using and her progress.  She’s already feeling the results.

Mandy Meyer-Hill, BA, LMT

Stairway Healing Arts Center
1 Washington Street
Cambridge, NY  12816
518-265-7889
StairwayHealingArts@gmail.com